I recently apologized to someone I don't like much, but I really was sorry for the situation we both found ourselves in thru no fault of either of us, really. But I apologized because I felt bad, and then afterwards, I felt better.
I recently was accused of believing I am never wrong and don't know how to apologize. As luck would have it, these two episodes happened on the same day. So I recounted the story of my apology to show that yes sir, I do too know how to apologize thankyouverymuch. Then I was asked if I did it because I was truly sorry, or to be a better person.
My response was "both". The response back was "exactly". As if I had just lost a point, and he had gained one.
What am I not getting? Besides the fact that the person of recently said conversation and I have a difficult time communicating in general.
Upon further reflection, I think the statement may have been did I apologize because I was truly sorry, or to" be the better person", as opposed to "be a better person".
Awful how one little word can change the whole meaning of an argument.
To apologize, in order to be the better person, implies one-up-manship. That I was trying to be better than the other person. It's not true - I truly did feel bad and felt in the wrong, and that I should have handled the situation differently. After apologizing... I felt better. Not as in feeling like I was the better person, but as is feeling less guilty.
Is that so wrong?
Blahg This: Can you remember a particularly hard apology that needed to be made, and did you do it, or not do it. Details!